6 Things You DON'T Need to Figure Out Before Booking a Boudoir Session

Okay, babe.

Can we talk about the absolutely RIDICULOUS amount of preparation some of you think you need to do before booking a boudoir session?

Because apparently, somewhere along the way, we decided women need to become professional models, master the art of lingerie shopping, and develop an entirely new personality before they're allowed to have their pictures taken.

MA'AM.

WHO GAVE YOU HOMEWORK?! 😂

Listen, I love a woman with a plan.

But there are a whole bunch of things you do NOT need to have figured out before you book a boudoir session at House of Divulged.

And since I can practically hear some of you overthinking this from your couch, let's clear a few things up.

1. You Don't Need to Know How to Pose

I'm putting this one first because OH MY GOD, THE HANDS.

"What do I do with my hands?"

"How am I supposed to stand?"

"What if I look awkward?"

BABE.

You do not need to memorize poses, practice your sultry face, or spend three weeks attempting to arch your back in the bathroom mirror.

That's MY job.

I'll guide you through your poses, demonstrate what I'm asking you to do, and help you make those tiny adjustments that make a huge difference in camera.

You just need to be willing to follow directions, trust the process, and occasionally laugh when I trip over something to show you what I mean.

2. You Don't Need an Entire Lingerie Collection

Please do not panic-buy $600 worth of lingerie at 2 AM.

Unless you just really want to.

In which case, I support your right to make questionable late-night shopping decisions. 😂

But seriously.

You don't need a suitcase full of brand-new outfits before booking.

I have a client closet with pieces you can explore, and you'll receive preparation guidance to help you plan what to wear.

And sometimes one good bra and panty set can create several completely different looks with the right accessories.

I literally just wrote an entire article about it!

See How I Styled One Black Bra & Panty Set Five Different Ways

We'll talk through wardrobe ideas as your session approaches.

YOU DO NOT NEED TO ARRIVE WITH A FASHION DEGREE.

3. You Don't Need to Change Your Body First

Oh, this one.

"I just want to lose a few pounds."

"I need to tone up first."

"I'll book when I feel better about how I look."

Babe, I need you to know something.

There is no magical weight, dress size, or number on a scale that suddenly grants you permission to have gorgeous photographs taken.

Your body does not need to submit an application for approval.

AND WE ARE CERTAINLY NOT WAITING FOR SOME IMAGINARY BOARD OF DIRECTORS TO SIGN OFF ON YOUR THIGHS. 🙄

Listen, every single woman I've ever met has something she's insecure about.

EVERY. SINGLE. ONE.

And I'm not going to sit here and tell you to magically stop caring about those things.

If you've got goals for yourself, GREAT! Work toward them. Do what makes you feel good.

But babe, you can love and accept yourself WHILE you're working toward those goals.

You don't have to put your happiness, your confidence, or your experiences on hold until you've checked every box on some imaginary self-improvement list.

The goal isn't to never have another insecure thought.

It's to stop giving those thoughts so much damn power over what you allow yourself to enjoy.

You can be a work in progress AND a woman worth celebrating.

RIGHT. FREAKING. NOW. 🖤

4. You Don't Need a Perfectly Planned Photoshoot Concept

Maybe you know exactly what you want.

Dark, moody, and dramatic.

Soft, romantic, and dreamy.

A little glamorous. A little edgy.

Or maybe your entire creative brief is:

"I dunno. I just wanna look hot." 😂

EXCELLENT.

WE HAVE A STARTING POINT.

You don't need to arrive with a complete Pinterest presentation, color-coded outfit spreadsheet, and detailed shot list.

I'm a Virgo, babe. OF COURSE I have a whole prep workflow. 😂

Once you're booked, we'll work through the details together. I've got a process to help us figure out your wardrobe, the looks you're drawn to, and the little details that make your session feel like YOU.

You do not need to show up with all the answers.

I HAVE A PLAN FOR HELPING US MAKE THE PLAN.

Because apparently, that's my love language. ♍

And if you want a little extra hands-on help bringing your wardrobe ideas together? I also offer optional in-person styling consultations.

5. You Don't Need to Be a Hair and Makeup Expert

Listen.

Some of us can create a flawless smoky eye in twelve minutes.

Others of us try winged eyeliner and end up looking like we lost a fight with a Sharpie.

NO JUDGMENT. 😂

For my full boudoir sessions, professional hair and makeup is included in the experience.

So you don't need to master a whole new beauty routine just to come hang out with me.

We'll use the preparation process to help you get ready, and you can tell me about the look you're hoping for.

6. You Don't Need a Special Occasion or a Whole New Personality

You do not need to be getting married.

You do not need a milestone birthday.

You do not need to be celebrating a divorce, an anniversary, or a major life transformation.

And you definitely don't need to suddenly become a mysterious, seductive stranger who only speaks in whispers and owns seventeen silk robes.

Although, honestly, that woman sounds like she'd be fun. Girl call me. 😏

You can book because you want to.

Because you think it'll be fun.

Because you'd love some beautiful photographs.

Because you want to try something new.

And you don't have to leave your regular personality at the door, either.

Be goofy. Be glamorous. Be shy. Be bold.

Be the woman who wears combat boots all week and wants to spend an afternoon feeling like an Old Hollywood movie star.

I LOVE THAT FOR YOU.

Okay, But What DO You Need to Know Before Booking?

Now, before you go thinking there's absolutely NOTHING you need to figure out...

HOLD UP, BABE. 😂

There are a few things I absolutely want you to understand before spending your hard-earned money.

Things like what your session includes, how the investment works, what happens with your photographs, and whether your photographer is someone you'd actually enjoy hanging out with.

I've already covered those details in my guide:

Is Boudoir Photography Worth It? What Kansas City Women Should Know Before Booking

Please read it.

Because the only surprises I want you having are the FUN ones.

And Since We're Talking About Booking...

If you're reading this on Thursday, November 12, you've got some pretty exciting timing.

The House Reserve opens TOMORROW, November 13! 🖤

This is our once-a-year booking event, and your access to the booking invitation comes through The Divulged Insider email list.

Now go ahead and take "learn how to pose like a supermodel" off your to-do list.

I'VE GOT THE HANDS COVERED, BABE. 😘🖤